The Decisions You Made Yesterday Led You to Today

May 21, 2019

The decisions of today will determine your fulfillment or sorrow for your tomorrow’s.
If you have small children, are you spending time loving them and listening to them or
are you managing them? We tend to manage our children when they’re small because
they are 100% dependent upon us to feed them, teach them and care for them. As they
get older they need to be heard and shaped into leaders by our intentional love and
focused time.

If you are married, are you spending time or investing time into a future of love and care
and mutual affection? Marriage is meant to be filled with love given and love received.
Love can look all different ways. God’s love is giving without expecting in return. His
love is unconditional. This is very rarely a reflection of our marriages. Rather, marriage
often looks more like, “Here are my expectations and here is how you are not meeting
them.”

Your job might be the one place where you feel like you are successful and don’t really
need advice. However, are you leading with a grace that leads people to inquire about
why you are different? Are you strong, but kind? Do you expect excellence but operate
with patience? When things go wrong or don’t meet your standards, do you get angry
and lose it or do you draw people in privately to give them a chance to correct their
mistakes and encourage them toward excellence not only for the good of the whole but
for their own success?

I have always thought that I was a very laid back leader who is happy and easy going. I
learned from my own children, who are now adults and work with/for me, that I am
actually not so in my communication through text and written words. This was so
shocking to me that I honestly thought they were completely off! I was so shocked by
this perception that I decided to go to a past assistant, who worked for my husband and
me for over six years and see if she saw me that way as well.

What?! To my shock and horror, she confirmed their assessment of my demeanor as a
“boss!” I could not understand this at all as I did not “feel” abrupt or harsh. I had been
told this in the past and tried to adjust to “help a couple people understand my intent”
thinking they were just misreading me. It wasn’t until I worked with someone who has a
similar personality to me that I understood. I saw myself in his communication style. In
person, you can read his body language and he would affirm you and be clear about
why he was asking for a change or certain expectations needed to be met. He would
send very short texts and emails with little commands or concerns. He did not add any
extra words, just what was needed.

This communication would send a rush of concern through me. Then I would call and he
was totally unemotional and not upset at all and explained what he needed. It was so
weird, had I gone by his written words alone I was certain he was so upset with me but
in person there wasn’t a hint of anything being really wrong. After being on the receiving
end of this type of communication, I have attempted to be more clear with my own written communication. I am still not great at it as I so often send my thoughts before I
forget them while I am on my way doing everything else that “seems” important. I’ve
even decided to use emojis in my emails (as unprofessional as that may seem). I do this
so that those who work with me can read my intent as well as whatever text might be
sent to them! 🙂

What seeds are you currently planting in your personal life and what harvest are you
desiring? Are you planting the seeds that will give you that harvest? It is important to
take a personal inventory every so often and ask those closest to us if our own
assessment matches the perception of others. If you are shocked by other’s
perceptions, don’t just discount it as “their own problem” but actually stop and see if you
can understand why they would say these things. Then it is important to make a
change.

Today’s life for you is a summation of your past decisions. Look for ways you can plant
seeds for a harvest you DESIRE to reap and do this in every area of your life. Tomorrow
is a wonderful opportunity, God’s mercies are new every morning!
Do you identify with this at all? Please share with me how this may have sparked some
thoughts that encourage you in your leadership to take a step back and see yourself in
a way that can be a more effective leader.

Galatians 6:7-9
7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.8 Whoever
sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please
the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. 9 Let us not become weary in doing
good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.

Hosea 10:12-13
12 Sow for yourselves righteousness, reap the fruit of unfailing love, and break up your
unplowed ground; for it is time to seek the LORD, until he comes and showers
righteousness on you. 13 But you have planted wickedness, you have reaped evil, you
have eaten the fruit of deception. Because you have depended on your own strength
and on your many warriors,

Thank you for reading,
Lisa Shuler

3 responses to “The Decisions You Made Yesterday Led You to Today”

  1. Danielle Reinhold says:

    “What seeds are you currently planting in your personal life and what harvest are you
    desiring? Are you planting the seeds that will give you that harvest?“ — SO MUCH packed into those words for me to meditate on, especially in the areas where I’m ‘waiting on God to move in another person’s life’ but am not fully planting the seeds (true foregiveness, grace, patience) consistent with the harvest I want (restoration of the relationship). Thank you for sharing your heart Lisa and being a voice the Holy Spirit is using to touch the ladies (and men 🙂 of CLC!

  2. Chris says:

    Lisa, this is sooo true. As a mother of five children ‘I’ loved them intensely but with all the ‘activity’ of running a tight ship I can realize, now, that my ‘outside’ pressures came into my tone or even harshness with my kids. Try as hard as I could to ‘protect them’ from life I failed often to be ‘kind, patient, gentle, at times, when life became overwhelming for me. I love to watch the young people today, that are in my life, as they sit down, eye to eye and speak to their little ones. I also love the fact that so many young dad’s are stepping to the plate to alleviate the pressures while taking ‘charge’ while mom takes a break…Love these young people!!! 🙂

  3. Anonymous says:

    Lisa,
    I have to admit that your written words distanced me and put up a wall, after several interactions that left me in tears (indeed I think each were in writing…), so I’m grateful God has brought you to this understanding, as it provided me some healing to hear. Honestly, this post helped me reflect upon moments over the last year where my own interactions were seen so differently than I’d have ever intended, and taken me to places with others that were so unexpected that I’ve no clue how to heal with them now, feeling those relationships now destroyed to the point of that being impossible. Thanks for holding up the mirror for me to see I too could use some time in reflection and grace for how they’ve interpreted me.

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